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Stress RELIEF, Part 2

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I wrote about how we can have so much stress in our life, and much of it is due to a busy life style and how much we need/want to accomplish in a day.

However, there is also stress that is brought on by events and circumstances that others create which are completely out of our control.

What can be done to get relief? How can we feel we have power over our own life? What do we do to feel peace, God’s spirit and joy even through trials and times of hardships?

I have THREE simple daily rituals that will reduce our stress and change our entire attitude, even when hardships seem to smother and crush our very life breath.

Stress RELIEF, part 2

Pray and THANK, Tell and LIFT and Productive Relaxation.

Why of all the things I could have chosen to pick, when limiting myself to three, did I select these?

Good question!

I know myself, and figuring we are all pretty much the same in this regard, realizing that if I would have made a long laundry list of things to do to alleviate stress, we would never remember it, much less do it and consequently have MORE stress! So, I thought about what three would be the most effective and productive while bringing the MOST successful and long lasting consequences and results.

Pray and Thank Then Write

This is actually a two part:

1a- PRAY and thank God for what you are grateful for that day

1b- WRITE down at least one a day in a gratitude journal what you are grateful for to God that He did for YOU, your family, etc. to BLESS.

a)Praying is such an important practice and truly life changing. It helps us remember that we DO have something to be happy about, whatever it is, even in the middle of a crisis or whirlwind of trouble and chaos as we look to our Lord, and confess that there was at lease ONE blessing from Him that day. By looking to our creator and recognizing His hand in our life, it eases our burden.

b)Have a little notebook that each night you write down ONE thing (more if you’d like!) that you were grateful for that day. Some days, I can totally relate too, the only thing possibly you can jot down is that you had the strength to hold the pen to scribble… Again, I promise that by doing this, crediting and valuing God’s love for you in even the simplest of ways, your life will change. I guarantee it! Your circumstances may not; however, your ability to carry the weight or responsibility will be alleviated and you will feel His love in ways you never, ever expected. Plus, your Heavenly Father will give you blessings so much quicker because you thank Him and praise Him.

Consider when your own family members thank you, you are quicker to do much more; well wouldn’t it be the same with our Heavenly Father!?

I have a post on Gratitude Journals, click HERE to read more

Compliment, Thank and Encourage

2- TELL by emailing, texting or hand writing a note DAILY to someone, by praising or thanking them. Do not forget to family members too.

Commit to spend 5 minutes, it’s be to do this each morning first thing at work, to send an email, text or write a hand written note to just one person. Tell them how much you appreciate them, or thank them for a kindness, or send a word of encouragement. In this ever increasing competitive world that grows smaller each day, particularly with social media where everything and everyone can be easily shared ‘at its best’, we all feel insecure and vulnerable in one sense or another. It does not take one bit away from us to lift another person spirits, remind them of their strengths and how much you appreciate the good you see in them.

By building another person, you are reducing your own stress and incredibly INCREASE YOUR OWN JOY!

Productive Relaxation

3- We have SO many ‘things’ and people battling for our time and attention that we rarely have time – NO, rarely do we make time to be quiet and still.

The inspired and significant  thoughts and impressions that come to our minds do NOT come when music, shows or games are blaring. Nor when we are constantly preoccupied mentally with electronic devices that can go anywhere with us – never leaving a moment of silence unless we make that choice.

The great minds of long ago had quiet, alone time to ponder the deep aspects of eternity and life. We must make the effort to have at least five DAILY minutes of quiet. It is an interesting technique of an enemy who would not want us to have communication with deity by occupying our mind constantly (24/7) with shallow, simple-minded and trivial noise.


a. Make TIME to relax and PONDER the truly important things in life. What is truly important to you? What are you doing to leave behind a praiseworthy and commendable legacy (nothing to do with monetary, all to do with uprightness and honor)?


b. Practice breathing techniques. Slow down your breathing and actively concentrate on it.

Imagine a personal paradise. Close your eyes and envision a different setting. What do you see around you? Is there a breeze? What do you hear – birds or water? Imagine the calming sound of ocean waves reaching the shore. Enjoy a moment in your special place.

  • Do belly breathing: where you put your hands on you stomach and when you breath in: you try to push away your hands, and when you breath out you make your hands go towards you
  • Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.
  • Inhale deeply as you count to five, hold your breath for five seconds, then exhale slowly, counting to five. Do this ten times to relax your muscles and nerves. As you breathe out, visualize the stress and tension leaving your body through your breath. (


 I like you, struggle with stress and all the troubles life brings. Yet, I sincerely believe that these THREE approaches, easily a 15 minute daily routine, can solve so much of our fears, anxieties and even health issues.

  1. Pray daily and thank God above for your blessings that day and write down ONE thing you are grateful for
  2. Send a text, email or note telling someone else how much you appreciate them, thank them or encourage them
  3. Relax for at least 5 minutes by deep breathing or whatever method to have the mindset and way to ponder and receive inspiration

Our life will be incredibly more JOYFUL, calm and that is how we can then make it better for those we love. Most importantly, these simple steps can bring us closer to God, making communication more easily to hear His will, thus making our life richer and more HAPPY!

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015

Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today




  • Aw, more great advice and truly cannot thank you enough for the further tips to help alleviate stress, Carrie as definitely have been there and sure I will be again and when I am will have to put more that you shared here into play. Thanks and have a wonderful week ahead now 😉

  • Carrie,

    Another great post on relieving and stress. I have had counselors for my daughter teach her how to breath when she is stressed. I have tried them also and I think they really help along with trying to exercise daily. I love having a gratitude journal. I have had one several times in the past but have not done that lately. I like to use it to see how God blesses me and how He answers prayers.
    Thanks for the encouraging helpful words.

    • Diane, you are so right and I really appreciate how you have incorporated these ideas and for sharing your insight and advice with us. Especially your testimony of a gratitude journal and of prayer. Thank you so much.

  • Tasha says:

    Sometimes I get thrown completely off balance when I get overly stressed. I find meditation to be a great stress reliever…emptying my mind of all it’s clutter and relaxing for a short period of time. I practice breathing exercises as well. We all need a way to relieve stress and tension build up…excellent reminder Carrie!

  • Melinda says:

    Carrie, such great advice! I have a gratitude journal, but I don’t write in it consistently. Prayer and thanking God always lifts my mood! Daddy God always loves to hear from us!
    Writing an encouraging letter or note, or thankful one is powerful. People don’t get thanked enough, I think.
    That personal email you sent me, after I commented on one of your posts, meant the world to me!! CAlling me an encourager really boosted my self-esteem, and my mood! Thanks!

  • Carrie, these stress relievers are so valuable. We get so focused on all the things that are “wrong” or not going well, that we forget to notice all the things that are “right” and that are going well….creating even more imbalance and stress in our lives. I remind myself frequently that “what you focus on expands”. So, what do I want to expand in my life? Stress, frustration, and what’s irritating me? Or God, abundance, gratitude, and love? It sure puts things in perspective. Thank you for another beautiful, valuable post, Carrie! 🙂

  • Carrie – These are wonderful suggestions. Now if I can only pit them in to practice daily. I so often do things for a couple of weeks and then find myself slipping back in to my old ways. 🙁 Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop. We love having you join us! Hope to see you back next week!

    • Debi, I’m so glad you found my post useful. I feel the same way and also have a hard time sticking with doing things I want/should. Maybe we can check on each other to get going:) I really appreciate you stopping by.

  • Jess says:

    I really needed to read this, Carrie. LOL 🙂 I’m feeling a tad bit stressed lately… Such a great read!

    Thanks for joining Cooking and Crafting with J & J!

  • Kimberly says:

    Great post! Pinned and tweeted. We truly appreciate you taking the time to be a part of our party. Please stop by and party with us again. The party starts Monday at 7 pm and ends on Friday at 7 pm. Happy Sunday! Lou Lou Girls

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