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Do YOU Have STRESS? part 1

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I attended a class on stress and the ways of increasing personal effectiveness and how to live a happier life. Mr. Miller brought up some very interesting points that I had never thought of, and which have consequently sunk deep in my soul; and maybe this will resonate with you. When you have stress, what causes it? What do you do to get relief? What is the Savior’s way?

Are you going through some difficulties that have you harried? Are there events in your life that may be a bit of a challenge for whatever reason, and have you unsettled or agitated? Is your family a trial of sorts that cause apprehension and worry? I hope to pass on a few of the ideas I took away from the class, as well as much of my own, that I can share, which I hope will help us know how to:

  • Relax
  • Reduce our work load to accomplish more
  • Feel more joy
  • Have peace in our heart
  • Calm in our soul
  • Feel God’s presence so we can hear His voice
  • It shouldn’t surprise any of us that 90% of people polled say they feel stress. We have so many options and ways to keep us busy; that’s a given to feel tension.

What is our natural reaction to being stressed and having too much on our plate? Why, it’s to run faster of course!

Let’s tweak a scripture to be what many of us are doing in our life: John 14:27 My stress I leave with you, my rush and busyness I give unto you. Let your heart be worried and anxious.

Wouldn’t that be the most awful thing ever!?!? If I read my scriptures and Christ said that to me, I would have no hope for direction, for a way for peace, joy and help! I’d hide under the covers and not want to come out!

“Absolutely nothing in scriptural records allows us to imagine Jesus as a sad, gloomy, fatigued, depressed and overburdened person. It is equally impossible to picture Jesus with his robes flying as he rushes thither and yon, helter-skelter, trying to accomplish twenty things at once. Although we see many who look disheveled as they rush through their daily agendas, such was NOT the strong, calm, and steady example set by the Man from Galilee.” (Mr. Miller quoted Mr. Pace from a leadership seminar on following Chris’s example to leadership)

John 14:27 (King James Version) correctly reads: Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. So how do we do as our Savior has directed us to do? He wants us to have His PEACE. NOT to have a troubled nor fearful heart. Let’s begin by looking at what we usually do. We allow stress to:

  • Affect our relationships
  • Affect our sleep – reduce and upset our sleep
  • Affect our relationships
  • Cause us to be irritable or angry
  • Unable to think clearly or stay on task
  • Not keep priorities straight and in proper order
  • Make us feel anxious or even depressed
  • Not take care of our health and well-being

We need to use a bit of care when we address stress. It isn’t always a bad thing. It can be a motivator and encourage us to perform. It is making sure we do not get used to, or need stress as an everyday, every minute stimulus, because it is not healthy and does not allow the Spirit to work in us when that is our constant state.

First off, to decrease stress do we HOPE it will go away?

Hope is NOT a Strategy! 

It takes a plan to decrees stress. I will address three in this post:

1- We MUST set boundaries

2- I’ll Chose NOT to _____

3- I will only spend this much:_____ time on ______

We MUST set boundaries We only have so much time in a day and that is all = 24 hours – no more, no less.

To protect our health we MUST set aside 9 (+) hours to sleep. ONE to get ready, settle down, get things in order and EIGHT to sleep, or MORE depending on the person.

This is so difficult, but to have the Spirit with us, regular sleep (yes, occasional late nights happen, but should not be the rule) truly makes a huge impact on our spiritual health.

Our body is a temple and as such needs to be taken care of, and this is a critical area. I read that the hours of sleep BEFORE midnight have double the beneficial effect on the body as those after midnight.

And that the old adage ‘early to bed, early to rise’ really is the healthiest for a body. This is one of the most difficult areas I struggle with. I definitely try to burn the candle from both ends and because of it, I do not function as well as I could. The nights I do follow this counsel, I can’t believe how much more productive, better equipped to emotionally deal with people and situations, and clear headed I am. Do you battle the sleep demon too? Thinking ‘just one more__ then I’ll go to bed’ and before you know it, it’s late. Is this an issue you can work on too? If so, join me in saying NO, it’s time for BED!!!

I’ll chose NOT to ___________ It’s ok to say I CANNOT this time, but possibly another; so ask me again please.

I think I struggle with this as much as anyone of you might also. I don’t want to disappoint, or put someone else out, or not ‘do my part’. But then I take on too much and bite off more than I can chew usually, which then I cause myself more stress. Whether it’s well intended or not, it’s still something added to my schedule that really did not need to be there – and I could have, and should have said no.

How about you? Do you ever do this? Is this an area that you can work on too?

I will spend THIS ______much time on _____ Oh, this is hard, whether it’s scrolling through Facebook, watching another episode of a tv show (making the hour later and depriving sleep), spending too much time on a project or hobbies, which we find then hinder other areas that need our attention.

I think this is a topic we ALL find our-self wasting vast amounts of useless time in some way or another. It is so important to relax, HOWEVER, wasting is not relaxing. I am going to calendar  and see where my time is going and how I honestly – HONESTLY spend it.

By seeing where I spend my time, I can reduce my stress by figuring out where I am wisely using time, where I am sensibly consuming relaxing time, and where I am throwing time way in ways that are actually adding stress to my life. Are you with me?

Let’s see how we can stop running to and fro like crazy people, and become more able to accomplish all we are here to do, while more fully having Christ’s PEACE and JOY. 

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015

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  • Melinda says:

    Oh Carrie, another shot straight to the heart. The Lord is using you mightily to call my name.
    Use time, not waste it. Enough sleep.
    Yep, those are just 2 of my struggles.
    Thanks for being a truth bearer.
    Love, Melinda

  • I truly couldn’t agree more and it is all about setting boundaries, as I have found in the past with things, such as blogging that when I am feeling the most stressed, it is because I haven’t set clear boundaries. But once boundaries have been set, it does make a world of difference. Thanks Carrie. Hope you are feeling good and having a great week so far!! 🙂

  • Carrie,

    What a great post! Who does not have stress in their life? I know I do and lots of it. I find when I do spend time in the morning praying and asking God for wisdom to make good decisions my day is good. When I leave God out of my life, I have never handled stress well. I have extremely high blood pressure that I have to keep under control. My father died at 58 and his mom at 39 from blood pressure problems.

    I love your suggestions of limiting your time. Making a plan but letting God control it.

    Thanks for the reminders.

  • Tasha says:

    I’m definitely not one that can function well on less than 8 hours of sleep. Some days I wish I could get even more!! It’s amazing how little sleep some people get on a daily basis…I’d be a complete and total mess. Great tips Carrie!!

  • Carrie, as always, this is beautiful and well-timed. 🙂 Your post really captures the imagination, with the idea of the “re-write” of the scripture, the the idea of Jesus running around being stressed. Hope is NOT a strategy, and I love your 3 Point Plan. Thank you!

  • Jess says:

    These really are great tips! 🙂

    Thanks for joining Cooking and Crafting with J & J!

  • Katrina says:

    I definitely do much better in my days when I’ve had at least 7 or 8 hours sleep. Unfortunately that rarely ever happens. With ten children and one more on the way, my sleep is always getting interrupted by someone in this house. The toddler still sleeps in my room, which I love, but he wakes up a few times in the night. Then I’m waiting up for the teenagers to come home from some place on the weekends. And there’s hardly a night that someone doesn’t come into my room to either tell me they are thirsty, or that they had a bad dream, or that they can’t sleep, or will ask me “Can I sleep in your bed?” — plus, the only time I can get anything done around here is at night, so that keeps me up, too. I try to nap during the day when the toddler takes a nap. Luckily, I don’t stress too much. My personality is pretty mellow, with a “don’t sweat the small stuff” attitude naturally built in. But still. I do love to sleep! Wish I could do more of it 🙂

    • Oh, Katrina, I am so with you on wanting MORE sleep and it is so true that from a toddler needing us to the teen who only seems to want to talk as soon as the hour is late, lol. You are doing such a tremendous job, it’s obvious. Thank you!

  • I am currently stressed out about a situation I have no control over. A precious friend has been placed into a nursing home and likely won’t have a choice about leaving. He is very sad and I fear may have lost his will to live. All I can really do is pray for him and those family members who have made the decision. We really do often times leave our troubles at the alter only to drag them back with us when we get up and walk away.
    It sounds like the class you attended was very rewarding! I like to claim Romans 8:28 when I don’t understand anything else.

    • Shirley, I am so incredibly sorry to hear of your dear friends situation. You are so right about others choices and how they affect us, and our stress levels. Thank you for sharing this and bringing this side of a situation to our attention. You are true friend to so many. Carrie

  • Kimberly says:

    Oh my! This is such a great post! Pinned and tweeted. We love partying with you and we appreciate you stopping by! Please take a minute to stop by next week, so we can pin and tweet your new creation. The party starts on Monday at 7 pm! Have a great Saturday! Lou Lou Girls

  • Betty says:

    Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop

  • Nikki Frank-Hamilton says:

    I really need to set time allotments, I get so far behind and finish less than I’d like cause I’m not watching the time! This is perfect btw, I have a stress related disease so I do a lot of praying!

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