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Do not say Mom

Mom’s need a break TOO! 

My husband, Stan traveled quite a lot while the kids were growing up and with five very, very active kids who were always busy and into everything, all the time, sometimes I simply needed a break.

However, there were not options for easy relief. So most of the time it was just me trying to deal with all of their shenanigans, daily drama, mishaps, messes, teasing and all the other sibling taunting that occurs.

I banned the word: M.O.M. Well, you’ll have to click to the next page to see what happened. 

One particular day I had it up to my eyeballs and beyond; and I’m pretty tall, so it was over the top.

I told them I was going into the bathroom as the weather was too bad to go outside, and that they needed to give me five minutes, one for each kid. Only five minutes of quiet. No talking. No noise. No tattling. And no one could say the word mom.

NO M.O.M. for 5 full minutes.  After making sure all sharp objects were up, the house secure, no fire hazards were available (a subject for another day), I went to my tiny bathroom to practice the methods of de-stressing professionals talk about.

First I began to count, while envisioning myself by the ocean or in the mountains; I couldn’t decide. I was deep breathing while trying not to hyperventilate. I mean this was my chance to get it all in, right? So I was taking advantage!

About three minutes into my ‘relaxation therapy’ a piece of paper appeared under my door. I picked it up and the words were:  Mom, can we talk to you yet? I began to laugh. It was the stress reliever I really needed. I opened the door to find all five kids laying on the floor, peering at the bottom of the door looking very concerned if their mother had lost it completely.

I couldn’t stop laughing which made them laugh, also letting them know all was well. There are those times though that we need our space.

This post is for parents AND for KIDS TO GET HELP when needed.  You never know who may be in trouble as shown in the video below – which is very well worth your time to watch.

  Inform!   This month is dedicated to Preventing Child Abuse, so I am continuing to cover the critical subject of protecting ALL children who need our help. If you work with children of ANY AGE, in any capacity, such as: in a daycare, preschool, in church, tutoring, in school, after school programs, extra-curricular activities, teen sp0rts, anything,

  • Please make the phone numbers for help in your state openly available all the time, or as frequent as possible.
  • Also, the national numbers listed below. You never know who will need this as shown in the video.

I found the most useful and information site on the subject of abuse to help us with information topic. I am using the Utah site as a source, which is really terrific. You might want to see if your state has one also! April is the MONTH! 

Click HERE  to download these activities to involve your family and to use in other ways if you work with children:

  • Calendar of fun family activities
  • Teaching Personal Safety to Your Child
  • Pinwheel Word Search
  • Bookmarks & Coloring sheets   This site is remarkable and I would highly recommend looking into it. It covers many subjects for how to get help, how to know if you need help, help for children and adults, understanding mistreatment and cruelty and provides contact numbers and websites galore for all types of needs.

Click HERE for What to Do and How to Know? How To Handle Abuse

  • Resources For Children
  • HotLine 1-800-4-A-CHILD

How Do You Know Something Is Abuse?

  • Physical Abuse
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Emotional/Verbal
  • Physical Neglect

On the Utah Prevent Child Abuse Site there is a video that I found excellent and very well worth the few minutes to watch. I pray for our families and those who cannot speak, protect, defend or care for them self; I know you do too.

This is such a difficult subject, but we must do all we can to prevent malicious behavior of any type. And protect all the innocent, and those who are subject to evil in all of its forms. 

Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2015, 2016

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  • This totally reminded me of the time when we were kids when my mom told us she was changing her name from mom to something else and not telling us what as we kept saying her name too many times that day and driving her quite crazy! But seriously it takes a good mom to know when they do need a break or a bit of a breather to regroup so as not to anything they will regret later. Thanks for that gentle reminder here today.

  • They are so cute!! Perfect stress relief therapy 🙂

  • Diane Roark says:


    I loved reading your story. I would never leave Caleb for even a minutes in fear of someone hitting his head and his shunt failing. He has had brain surgery to repair his shunt 17 times. A STRESSFUL NIGHTMARE. Jerry was also out of town during most of Caleb’s hospital stays. Anyway when I did give myself a time out, it was while Caleb was napping. Luckily, he took a nap until he was 6 or 7. I would sneak in the bathroom with a handful of CHOCOLATE! My other kids would always catch me, but I did not share.

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Connie says:

    Perfect , perfect, perfect ,,, You have hit that nail right on the head Darlin” !!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • S.L. Payne says:

    I literally laughed out loud at this! I’ve definitely had those moments too! I’ve come out of the bathroom too to find my three bio boys and foster daughter crowded around each wanting a piece of me… As pathetic as it sounds I was actually pretty impressed that they were able to wait the couple minutes instead of picking the lock as is their usual M.O. And yes, hiding anything related to fire! You are so right how humor is such a huge stress-reliever, at least for me. It is so important to take care of ourselves otherwise we can’t be good parents. I’ve seen too much of the consequences of having no margin or safety net in life as foster parent. Thanks so much for sharing and such a great reminder!

  • I think a story like your M.O.M. story has happened to all moms at some point. Possibly weekly.

  • Jess says:

    Heh…that little note is adorable. 🙂

    Thanks for joining the Link Up this week!

  • Dori says:

    Thank you for sharing this informative, and yet, humorous story. Isn’t it funny how our children always seem to find a different and unique way around the mountain?!

  • It wasn’t funny but at the same time it was. I can just see 5 children waiting impatiently outside the bathroom door. My children used to do the same thing. This is good stuff. We are so glad you shared with us at Merry Monday. I hope to see you at the new party beginning tonight at 9pm EST.

  • Andrea Mitchael says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your de-stressing story and this video. I am encouraged to raise healthy children with healthy relationships and modeling such behavior myself.


  • Melinda says:

    Wonderful story. Laughter is often the best medicine!
    Thanks for reminding us of how prevasive abuse can be.

  • melinda says:

    Thank for continuing to address such a tough subject .
    Yes, I do pray for God to protect ALL the victims.

  • I remember this story and I love it! You always have the best stories from your family and especially when your kids were little.

  • Tasha says:

    LOVE this story! I can so relate to this. Your family would have made for great TV, btw. So friggin hilarious lol

  • Hi Carrie, I am getting caught up on my blog reading and just got to this post. I really enjoyed this darling story and admire your concern for all children.

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