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You've Got To Row Together!

If You Don’t Row Together, You Don’t Go Where You Want to Go!

Have you ever wanted things YOUR way more than God’s way? Do you find it difficult to work with others, or want to do whatever is the easiest; which may not be the BEST for them—or you?
Boy you are NOT alone my friend, I am RIGHT there with YOU! I’ll tell you about WHY we have to paddle in the RIGHT direction, so our boat, and that of our loved ones, move in the right direction – meaning God’s direct, not ours. Doing this is foror our benefit, even when we don’t see the end blessings. Read to the end:)

Ya Gotta Paddle Together In Order to Move
6/2014 – I went to Cub Scout Day Camp with my Webelos Den and had a wonderful time. Stan (who had business meetings that day and was unable to attend camp) and I currently have 12 Webelos (10 year old boys). and they are all great kids. I have been in and out of Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts quite a few times in the years I’ve been married. My largest den was 17 boys and they happened to be Webelos also.
In my church it is a calling, or an assignment if you will; which is why I am in this position and rotating in and out frequently.
Scouting was not my idea of fun in the beginning, and admittedly I resisted it quite a bit. After much prayer, I softened my heart and became involved with my oldest son, Derek’s den when he was 8 years old.
Scouting has created memorable experiences and teaching opportunities I would not trade.
Derek went on to get his Eagle at 13 years old (his brothers were also 13 when they received theirs), all three did the Varsity program; receiving many awards. Dallin and Delsi earned many of the Venturing Awards and Derek actually became the first in the nation (USA) to earn all the Venturing Awards with the exception of Sea Scout (no boat, nor access to requirements at that time). I mention this because if I had not listened to what God wanted me to do, instead of what I wanted to do, my kids would have missed out on so many valuable skills and talents, that it would have been a truly missed chance in countless ways.
(FYI I was a Girl Scout Leader to my girls so they had that experience too.)
NOW Back to my day with this Webelos den.  Camp KieselDelsi came as one of the adult leaders as she is currently the Cub Master to this camp.
 The boys were able to pass off many requirements, and loved the BB GUN range and the Archery; we had a little fun with it also.Camp Kiesel 1

That evening, the camp staff retired a flag. It was one of the most reverent, spiritual experiences some of my cubs had experienced in their young years. I think being out in nature and away from technology opens us up for inspiration. Camp Kiesel 2From the picture on the top, you can see Delsi’s boat was being swamped by the camp staff. She worked at this camp for three summers as a young teen which is why they were teasing her.
Dallin, my youngest son, also worked there for a summer.
We had the opportunity to go out in the boats a second time, in the afternoon. I had half the boys in my boat and Delsi had the other half in hers. We kept trying to get the boys to paddle together to move in the direction we needed to go.
Instead, some boys paddled faster, with others becoming distracted with anything and everything around them.
In order to turn the boat, some boys needed to drag their paddle, or take it in the opposite direction in the water, while others were to paddle forward. It was hilarious, though a bit of a predicament. Camp Kiesel 3
Delsi and I were laughing about it later, when she brought up the point that to go forward in life we have to paddle together in a manner that helps the other, which in actuality it moves us forward in the process. 
I couldn’t agree more and thought what a fitting analogy for all of us. 
As we build, lift, comfort, nurture and serve one an other, whether convenient or not; our own life is enhanced and improved beyond anything we could ever do for our self.  By extending oneself to buoy up another, we are improved in our talents, skills, abilities and influence. 
Possibly we could make a concerted effort, to say a little prayer to avoid unnecessary distractions in our life, express gratitude as we Recognize a blessing(s) received, and to whom He would have us be a blessing. 
See, sometimes we have to do hard things, even when it’s not easy for the better good.
We have to find out what God’s will is for us and our loved ones so our boat and theirs moves in the RIGHT direction, then paddle with all our might.
Frustrating for sure at times, but as long as we are paddling, working and striving to only do HIS work, His will and be in His ways, our boat will always be guided by Him. And what else matters?!
This is how we add value and pure joy to the life we have been so graciously given; as well as bring blessings to our life and those we love so dear.
Copyright Carrie Groneman, A Mother’s Shadow, 2014, 2016
Recognize a blessing and be a blessing today




  • Diane Roark says:

    I love how you take everyday events and turn them into life lessons. Comparing Paddling together with building each other up is Brilliant!
    Thanks for sharing!

  • I must admit I was a girl scout when I was younger and am hoping at least one of my girls wants to become one, because it was stuff like this that I definitely enjoyed and had fun with. And would love to possibly experience it all over again through them, too 🙂

  • Sinea Pies says:

    I was in children’s ministry for 14 years so I know the joy of working with kids. Looks like they had the time of their lives at your camp. What fun 🙂 Now I am a parttime preschool teacher and can hardly wait to get back into it. Working with children IS a calling, not a job. 🙂

  • Love the analogy here Carrie and it is so true. Working together is a must if you want to get anywhere together in life. Thanks for the reminder.

  • Jess says:

    This is such a great post!
    Thanks for joining the Link Up this week!

  • Kimberly says:

    So fun! Pinned. Lou Lou Girls

  • Adrian says:

    An awesome life lesson Carrie! Again, thanks for sharing with us at the Teach Me Tuesday Linky Party:)

  • Thanks so much for sharing with Wednesday’s Adorned From Above Link Party.
    Debi @ Adorned From Above

  • I love this analogy, Carrie! You are so good at coming up with great life lessons. Thanks so much for sharing with the Let’s Get Real Party.

  • My Webelos days are over, my son is all grown up! Nice way to reflect back! Thank you so much for linking up to Merry Monday this week! I am sharing your post today on my twitter. We hope to see you next week for another great party! Have a great week!

  • Tasha says:

    I’ve been thinking about putting my son into cub scouts but unfortunately I don’t think we’d have the time to dedicate to it. Micah is really outdoorsy and loves building things so I’m sure he’s learn so much. You and Stan really put in a lot of work over the years, haven’t you? And still going strong!

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